Broken pickers love cookie monsters?

We just love the cookie monster because he is so sweet and yummy; we could just eat him up. We look at him the same way we stare at a bakery window, wanting and salivating, imaging what it would be like when we get our little cookie home. Just like a real cookie, he is delicious and satisfying for the moment, but is not very good for us in the long run. The problem with the cookie monster is that he doesn’t reciprocate. He’s love’s equivalent to empty calories.
We adore the cookie monster so much; we can’t believe he’s just throwing us saccharine little crumbs. So we make excuses for him, “oh he’s so sweet,” or “poor thing, he’s just sacred.” Our girlfriends tell us to give him time. We fear if we push him to much he’ll crumble. So we wait and hope, taking whatever little morsel he decides to meter out to us.
Sometimes we say enough is enough. We may decide we deserve more or we are going to get healthy. We may even declare that we are going to stop our cookie consumption and find a more nourishing diet. But, the allure of the cookie is difficult release. When we try to leave we go through a type of sugar withdrawal. The obsessive thoughts begin. We forget how unhealthy it is and just remember how warm and sweet and scrumptious it was. The obsessive craving draws us back. The next thing we know we are on another wild cookie spree.
After a bad cookie binge we end up feeling fat, stupid and ashamed of our behavior. We walk away feeling bewilder because he looked so good, seemed so sweet how would we ever know he would be so bad for us. The cookie monster can be the most painful of all. He can do a number on our minds, bodies and souls.
So why are we so attracted to cookie monsters? New York bestselling author Janet Woititz explains in book The Intimacy Struggle, “when we grow up and look for our own partner, on some level we are attracted to people who remind us of the people who raised us. Because our sense of abandonment and disconnectedness experienced in our family of origin teaches us as children to be quiet, alone, needless, and wantless – so as not to bother our parents – we are later unconsciously attracted to people who don’t try to attach to us very much. You are grateful when the person throws you a crumb, but get bored quickly with the one who is available all the time.”